f you want to get back together with a girlfriend or your wife there are certain steps that you need to take. Now is an opportunity for you to look closely at the things that caused the break up and realize that mending a broken relationship takes time. You must also realize that trying to get back together for the wrong reasons will be instantly detected by your lady. Think about this time apart as an opportunity for you to really look at your behavior and how you treated her during the relationship. Ask yourself, did you really pay attention to how she felt? Did you really care? Many breakups are caused because a girlfriend or wife feels that she isn't really cared about, and that her man only wants her around for his own needs. You can see why that wouldn't feel good to anyone!

If you're trying to woo her back with flowers or cards and it isn't working, you might be wondering why. Well it's because buying flowers or a card that someone else wrote is a simple thing to do, takes very little effort and really means nothing. What she will respond to is if you sit down and actually take the time to write a letter about how you feel about her, and show her that you have taken a look at your part of the break up and are trying to learn from it. Just because it's hard for you to write your feelings doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. In fact the harder it is the more it means you should do it! A woman wants to know she's loved, appreciated and valued. You can show her how much you care by doing things you're not really comfortable doing. To save a broken relationship you have to go above and beyond the regular call of duty.

Are you are thinking about dating other women in order to make her jealous? If so, understand that you are playing with fire! Of all the ways to fix a broken relationship, this is probably the worst. Ask yourself if you are being manipulative and trying to bring out the worst in her in order to get what you want. If so, that is not an attractive quality! If she has a boyfriend already and is making you jealous, well, your chances of getting back together are probably slim at this time. However it is possible so don't completely give up hope. You must not react in an angry, explosive way. Just continue to be thoughtful toward her and let her know you still care. Most of the time rebound relationships run their course quickly. You don't want to say or do things you later might regret.

It is important when you are dealing with fixing a broken relationship to have a step by step plan. You must also understand this isn't all about getting her to do what you want but that you will be growing and changing through this process as well. That is a great thing! If you can save your marriage or relationship and create a far better partnership than before, then all the effort will be worth it.