Knowing body language does have some benefits, but I have to laugh when I hear certain "relationship experts" who tell you how to use body language to "appear" more confident.

Fact: Your body language is a direct reflection of what is going on inside you. Even if you are an expert in body language, if inside you are a bundle of nerves and low on confidence, it will show on the outside no matter how hard you try to hide it.

Just as an expert poker player can see the tells of the most polished opponent when a moment of uncertainty enters into their mind, most women will be able to sense insecurity and neediness just by the way you approach her.

Whether you believe in women's intuition or not, they do seem to have a 6th sense that triggers some awareness within them. They don't even have to be consciously looking for signs. Even if most of the signs are subtle, a woman will instantly become aware of your feelings at an unconscious level, even if consciously she doesn't realize it at first. However, it won't take her long to figure this out and give you your walking papers in very short order.

Now, while knowing body language may not help you much in disguising your stress or fear, there are some advantages to being aware of the body language of others in the dating world.

There are all sorts of books and magazine articles out there talking about techniques such as NLP and mirroring. You can even take classes on how to master these techniques in order to either intrepret or communicate the silent communication of the body.

But no matter how adept you get, if your self-confidence is low or non-existent, the only thing you will communicate is "I'm not worthy".