Should I Try To Win Back My Ex Boyfriend? 3 Reasons Why You Shouldn" t
Let me start off this conversation by stating that I am not against the idea of reconciling. It can be a good thing to do for a lot of women. However, there are still a lot of situations where it is the WRONG thing to do and I hate to see someone waste their time on trying to get back with an ex boyfriend when they are clearly going after the wrong guy.
If you are wondering if you should try to win back an ex boyfriend, here are 3 reasons why you shouldn't:
1. You should never try to win back an ex boyfriend who was abusive to you.
One of the tricks that abusive men tend to play on women, is to make them feel like it is partially their fault and that can often lead a woman to come to the belief that she should try to work things out with him. If he was an abusive guy, getting back together with him is NOT going to be the right thing to do. For one thing, you are just going to make him feel like he can act that way again, because you are the one that is coming back to him. For another, the reality is that no matter how much you may think he has changed and no matter how much he said he has, you really don't know for sure and that isn't something that you want to risk getting wrong.
2. You shouldn't try to win him back if he is the kind of guy who is going to cheat on you left and right.
Once you know that a guy is the kind of guy who is going to cheat on you, you might as well cut off any ties that you have with him. This is another one of those behaviors that doesn't just change overnight and most of the time, when women think that the guy really has had a change of heart and isn't going to be a cheater, the reality is that he will still do his thing, he'll just get better at being able to keep it a secret.
3. You shouldn't try to win him back if you are only doing it because you feel sorry for him.
I have heard this one before. A woman asks the question, should I win him back, but you can tell that her heart really isn't into it. So, I ask why they would even ask that question and a lot of the time the answer has something to do with the fact that they feel sorry for their ex boyfriend. That's nice that you might feel sorry for him, but you can't build a lasting relationship on just feeling sorry, can you?
If you are wondering if you should try to win back an ex boyfriend, here are 3 reasons why you shouldn't:
1. You should never try to win back an ex boyfriend who was abusive to you.
One of the tricks that abusive men tend to play on women, is to make them feel like it is partially their fault and that can often lead a woman to come to the belief that she should try to work things out with him. If he was an abusive guy, getting back together with him is NOT going to be the right thing to do. For one thing, you are just going to make him feel like he can act that way again, because you are the one that is coming back to him. For another, the reality is that no matter how much you may think he has changed and no matter how much he said he has, you really don't know for sure and that isn't something that you want to risk getting wrong.
2. You shouldn't try to win him back if he is the kind of guy who is going to cheat on you left and right.
Once you know that a guy is the kind of guy who is going to cheat on you, you might as well cut off any ties that you have with him. This is another one of those behaviors that doesn't just change overnight and most of the time, when women think that the guy really has had a change of heart and isn't going to be a cheater, the reality is that he will still do his thing, he'll just get better at being able to keep it a secret.
3. You shouldn't try to win him back if you are only doing it because you feel sorry for him.
I have heard this one before. A woman asks the question, should I win him back, but you can tell that her heart really isn't into it. So, I ask why they would even ask that question and a lot of the time the answer has something to do with the fact that they feel sorry for their ex boyfriend. That's nice that you might feel sorry for him, but you can't build a lasting relationship on just feeling sorry, can you?
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