Does your daily laundry list of things to do look something like this: · Get the morning paper · Water the plants · Have the "Break-Up" talk with significant other Now, since putting an end to a relationship is almost NEVER at the top of anybody's "To-Do" list, the fact is that when a relationship has gone south, someone needs to be responsible for ending it.
Truthfully, many relationships last way longer than they should just because breaking up IS hard to do.
Sometimes a break up happens because of a major blow out that forces someone to pull the trigger on the break-up.
Conversely, the relationship just fizzles out to the pointy someone says "I'm Done!" So, how do you end a relationship so that nobody gets hurt? You should be absolutely clear on why you want to end the relationship.
The primary reason that comes to mind is probably not the real reason.
That's the first step to consider.
After you gain clarity on that, the next step is being honest with yourself.
Meaning when you have "the talk" with your boyfriend/girlfriend please be sure you are being 110% honest with yourself and with them.
Like they always say, "Honesty Is The Best Policy.
" I realize this might sound a little crazy, but try to schedule a breakup time that is mutually convenient for the both of you.
Generally speaking, it is better to break up in person rather than over the phone.
Think about how you would feel if you were the victim of a break up that took place over the phone.
Although if you are involved in a long distance relationship, I suggest doing it sooner over the phone rather than waiting for a time you can get together and have that face to face discussion.
It might sound mean, but it's not.
It is really the best way.
Try to think compassionately when planning a break up.
Should you choose to maintain a friendship after the break up, you will need to consider that when you are planning the break up.
Try not to say thing to put your partner in a defensive state of mind.
Rather, discuss things you've learned and the memories you will keep close to your heart forever.
I know you're done with the relationship, but please try to remember that you might have to console someone that could be in tears.
Your partner may become very emotional during this time.
Please try to respond to their emotional needs.
Try not to take anything said in a negative manner personally during a break up.
Your boy/girlfriend could say things they really don't mean.
Try to let these words bounce off your chest.
Imagine you're Superman and the negative words are bullets.
Remember, you're ready to begin a new phase in your life and it will surely not include a romantic relationship with your ex.
It would probably be better if you maintain a positive type of relationship with them, but if you are indeed ending the relationship for the right reasons, it is probably the best thing for both of you.
Could you ever consider getting back together? Does ending a relationship always mean "the end?" That is something only you can decide.
Almost any relationships can be saved if certain conditions are met.
If you're willing to make the effort, you can get through this period as an even stronger couple.
Again, the operative word is "IF" you are willing to try again, and meet the appropriate conditions your relationship could be saved.
However, if you are dead set on dissolving the relationship, the best thing is to just end a relationship with a clean break and move on.