Is Marriage a Commitment, or an Experience?
It is amazing how the world has evolved over the years. Everything is just about way different in the 21st century than it was 2-3 decades ago. Morals and values seem to have changed just as quick as the technology of today. This type of change doesn't happen overnight but somehow that change managed to slowly sneak into our latest generation. Almost as if technology has a link between morals and values. Most of us have heard stories from our elders and ancestors, therefore we know a little bit about our history. However, our recent history shows that things are moving so fast, leaving a huge unexplained gap that it's becoming frightening even to think about what's coming in the near future. One the changes affecting society today is relationships and how we view this thing called "Marriage". Some things about it may have changed for the best while some things may be at its worst.
Marriage is beautiful thing. Marriage is a commitment. Marriage is an understanding. Marriage is a new life. Marriage is a blessing. Marriage is work.
Marriage can be all the good things ONLY if the right guidelines are followed by both parties involved in it. Not sure if it's a good thing or not, but one thing about marriage is that almost everyone at some point wants the idea of getting married, but mainly because we are expected to get married, and our brains have already been programmed since birth that we have to seal the deal when that time comes. A lot of people have struggles understandings the real meaning of marriage. For most religions, marriage is a blessing from God as well as the family for two people to procreate and live a free joyful life as intended. A marriage is even more special with abstinence until married to that special someone, although that's sadly hardly ever the case nowadays.
A true relationship/marriage means:
€ Loving your partner
€ Being proud of your partner regardless
€ Protecting your partner
€ Fighting for your partner
€ Spending time together
€ Being committed
€ Being monogamous
€ Being truthful
€ Being faithful
€ Being honest
€ Sharing responsibility
€ But most important, being HAPPY.
HINT; the easiest way to determine if your partner is the "marrying type" is through what and how they Think, Talk, or Act about marriage. The rest is your decision.
Marriage today can be considered overrated because most of the qualities don't exist in many marriages. As much as we love the idea of marriage, marriage just isn't for everyone. It supposed to be, but it isn't (at least not for a specific period). The worst thing you can do is get married or start a family because of the pressure that comes from other people without the existence of those qualities or being mentally prepared. Women especially tend to have the most pressure because of their biological clock and what not, but guess what? Life is simple but we sometimes manage to make it complicated for ourselves as well as others. Well here is a piece of advice to all:
€ Don't fall for the pressure from others, otherwise you are just compromising your happiness for misery.
€ Ladies & gentlemen, especially men- Don't get into a marriage if you know you're going to be acting single. (Otherwise take pride in what you have and own it)
€ Society- STOP pressuring people into relationships. The right time for you is certainly not the right time for them, and the right time for them has nothing to do with you.
Of course a marriage has its own challenges that requires a lot of work. The most common mistake people make is giving up easily and running off to where the grass seems to be greener without realizing that it's sometimes much easier to just add a little water to what they already have, and that grass could be even much greener. Having that said; not everything is meant to be saved but you can at least try to give it 110% while in it. The reality is that two people can still be happy without rushing into marriage, in some cases happier than some married couples. The important thing is to have a clear understanding with your partner because that is the foundation of a successful relationship.
Even though marriage hasn't worked out the best for so many people including some that are still unhappily married, there is just something special about marriage that make you want to experience it anyways. This goes to show that other people's failures are not your failures, create your own path and succeed. Marriage is simple but life is tricky.
The question is; is marriage today a commitment, an experience, or is it overrated?
IMPORTANT NOTE: Whatever you do, play it safe. Monogamy is the best way to go because it eliminates the chances of playing Russian roulette with your health (STD) that could cause major consequences later in life.
Marriage is beautiful thing. Marriage is a commitment. Marriage is an understanding. Marriage is a new life. Marriage is a blessing. Marriage is work.
Marriage can be all the good things ONLY if the right guidelines are followed by both parties involved in it. Not sure if it's a good thing or not, but one thing about marriage is that almost everyone at some point wants the idea of getting married, but mainly because we are expected to get married, and our brains have already been programmed since birth that we have to seal the deal when that time comes. A lot of people have struggles understandings the real meaning of marriage. For most religions, marriage is a blessing from God as well as the family for two people to procreate and live a free joyful life as intended. A marriage is even more special with abstinence until married to that special someone, although that's sadly hardly ever the case nowadays.
A true relationship/marriage means:
€ Loving your partner
€ Being proud of your partner regardless
€ Protecting your partner
€ Fighting for your partner
€ Spending time together
€ Being committed
€ Being monogamous
€ Being truthful
€ Being faithful
€ Being honest
€ Sharing responsibility
€ But most important, being HAPPY.
HINT; the easiest way to determine if your partner is the "marrying type" is through what and how they Think, Talk, or Act about marriage. The rest is your decision.
Marriage today can be considered overrated because most of the qualities don't exist in many marriages. As much as we love the idea of marriage, marriage just isn't for everyone. It supposed to be, but it isn't (at least not for a specific period). The worst thing you can do is get married or start a family because of the pressure that comes from other people without the existence of those qualities or being mentally prepared. Women especially tend to have the most pressure because of their biological clock and what not, but guess what? Life is simple but we sometimes manage to make it complicated for ourselves as well as others. Well here is a piece of advice to all:
€ Don't fall for the pressure from others, otherwise you are just compromising your happiness for misery.
€ Ladies & gentlemen, especially men- Don't get into a marriage if you know you're going to be acting single. (Otherwise take pride in what you have and own it)
€ Society- STOP pressuring people into relationships. The right time for you is certainly not the right time for them, and the right time for them has nothing to do with you.
Of course a marriage has its own challenges that requires a lot of work. The most common mistake people make is giving up easily and running off to where the grass seems to be greener without realizing that it's sometimes much easier to just add a little water to what they already have, and that grass could be even much greener. Having that said; not everything is meant to be saved but you can at least try to give it 110% while in it. The reality is that two people can still be happy without rushing into marriage, in some cases happier than some married couples. The important thing is to have a clear understanding with your partner because that is the foundation of a successful relationship.
Even though marriage hasn't worked out the best for so many people including some that are still unhappily married, there is just something special about marriage that make you want to experience it anyways. This goes to show that other people's failures are not your failures, create your own path and succeed. Marriage is simple but life is tricky.
The question is; is marriage today a commitment, an experience, or is it overrated?
IMPORTANT NOTE: Whatever you do, play it safe. Monogamy is the best way to go because it eliminates the chances of playing Russian roulette with your health (STD) that could cause major consequences later in life.
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