Have you and your significant other split up? Don't panic! This is no time to get agitated.
You need to address this problem calmly and rationally.
Sure, you want to get back together again, but you must use psychology in order to do so.
If not, you could actually drive your ex away from you rather than draw them closer! What is the best way to handle the situation? Give your partner some space.
The worst thing you can do is frequently call or pester the other person.
You may only end up saying something you didn't mean and make the situation worse.
In addition, your ex needs some breathing room.
He or she needs some time to sort things out.
The biggest problem with getting into panic mode is that you may send the wrong kinds of signals to your ex.
You may send the signals that your are desperate to get back together.
This puts you in a needy place.
This is a bad situation to be in.
What is the most attractive place to be in? One of supreme, ultimate self-confidence.
This is what attracts other people to us in the first place.
This may be what attracted you and your ex together as well.
When you exude poise and self-confidence, you send a message that you are in control and able to handle whatever situation comes your way.
This is exactly the opposite message that most people send who are desperate to get back together with someone.
When someone is too desperate to get back together, they tend to phone the other person too much.
They just "accidentally happen" to be in the places they know their ex frequents.
This is a bad move! Alexandra Penney and Norman F.
Stevens, Jr.
, authors of the book "How to Make Love to a Man," interviewed over 200 men of all ages In order to find out what they found to be the most sexy traits in another person.
One of the most common things that came up is "self-confidence.
" The self-confident person is at ease with themselves -- exactly the opposite of the needy or desperate person! So what is the solution to dry your ex back to you like a magnet? Ironically, it is to make your ex think that you no longer need him or her! You need to get out and about, meet new people, develop new relationships.
Guess what? Your ex will notice this and start to see you as desirable again! People naturally want what everyone else wants.
Why do people naturally flock to buy the latest iPod? Because that is what everyone else is attracted to.
When we see a person who is seemingly popular, we naturally conclude that there must be a good reason for their popularity.
To get out and about more, it is true that you may have to overcome some shyness.
Maybe you and your ex have been together so long that your socializing and conversational skills have become somewhat rusty.
You want to be confident when meeting new people, so be sure to do a little basic brushing up on your conversational skills.