If you can learn to understand what a woman is telling you through the way she expresses her body language, you can be so far ahead of the game. Body language deciphering often can get rid of almost all of the guessing that we go through when we are trying to figure out exactly where her mind is and how we should be responding.

When a woman is open to verbal communication her entire body tells you so. She seems relaxed, her arms are not folded tightly across her chest, and she appears to be rather "open" and inviting. Often her eye contact will hold steady or she will look at you frequently. Women touch their hair for a multitude of reasons, but long intimate touches of her own hair indicate that she is more open to verbal communication. When she leans forward or in some manner brings her body closer to you, she is pretty much writing it in the sky that she is interested in your every word, so talk.

Some women will play nervously with a small object like a necklace, a ring, their napkin, something that can appear to keep their attention focused on anything other than you. This may very well be an invitation to communicate on a deeper level. Often nervous playing indicates that she is deciding whether she wants to be present or if she wants to close the door. By deepening the meaning of the communication, you keep her attention longer which helps her to make her decision.

Watch her eyes and her smile. If she seems cold or rigid, she is probably thinking that you need to stop talking. If her smile seems warm and her eyes are sparkling and large she is interested in you. Watch out for pursed lips, lip biting, and twisted lips. This is usually an indicator that she is losing interest or is getting uncomfortable. If you are boring her, you will first notice it on the lips and eyes. Pep up the conversation if she starts looking wistfully bored.

Watch for changes in her posture which indicate a change of mood. Drawing back and crossing the arms is an indication that she is closing off to you. Leaning forward and allowing her body to face you is an indication that she is wanting much more.

We can always be encouraged by long gazing looks. When her eyes are truly interconnected with yours, you have achieved a new level of communication. She is not only interested, but chances are she will be thinking about you tonight when she goes to bed, assuming she is going alone. Long gazing looks are the pinnacle of open body communication.

A woman uses her entire body to indicate whether or not she is interested in anything more than verbal communication. Watch her changes as you continue to talk with her. The more she touches you, the more interested she is in. The more she shifts her position, crosses and recrosses her legs, plays with shoes, her legs, or the bar or table legs the more she is indicating interest. When she leans back does she cross her arms or fold them on her lap or does she leave her front unprotected? When she is unprotected she is indicating that she has a sense of safety and a sense of desire, whether sexual or intellectual.

Do not make the mistake of thinking that every action a woman makes is a sign for you to advance. You can learn a lot, but also pay attention to your subject matter. If you are engaging in a high level debate about the current political situation in Iraq, she may be indicating interest. However, it might be interest in the conversation. If the topic matter is relatively mundane, like your job or your family or your childhood or anything really having to do with you, and you are still receiving these signals you can take them as a sign of personal interest.

Tossing her head, rolling her head back with laughter, and dilated pupils are all indicators that you are doing an awesome job keeping her attention. Of course, these are the most obvious signals. Some women are aware of their obvious signals and will intentionally either highlight them to get you to notice or dull them down a bit to keep you guessing. Not every woman wants to be figured out right away.

That is why the dilation of pupils is such a strong indicator for any man who can catch it happening. It is the one thing she really can't control. So while she might be sending you mixed signals, you can determine how well you are doing by simply watching the way her pupils move and shrink and dilate when she looks away from you for a period of time and when she looks back at you again. Pupil dilation is found to be an indicator of interest, not necessarily a welcome invitation to take her right there on the bar.

Women will let you know everything they are anticipating through their more subtle communication. Does she lick her lips while talking to you or does she do it while she is glancing around? Looking at you at moistening her lips is a definite sign of sexual interest while slipping her tongue over her lips while looking around might indicate interest elsewhere or a simple need for a drink.

Sudden changes in her body posture might indicate something outside of the two of you (if the subject matter didn't suddenly change to something that she finds offensive) and you might need to bring her attention back to you in order to figure it out. Maybe an ex just walked in or perhaps she is feeling like she can't ditch her friends to go off with you. You do have to leave a small amount of room for interpretation that is not related to you at all.