How to Attract a Girl
So you have got the first date and you go out together having a meal or sharing some activity.
You want to attract a girl to you as a person so that a real relationship will begin.
What happens now at this point is so important for it sets the groundwork for any further contact or action.
The very first rule to attract a girl is "Do not Try" The strange paradox is that when we really want something so strongly we behave over the top and become a pressure cooker.
This pressure then gets turned on to the one you desire and then she will start to run for cover.
So stop trying so hard.
Courtesy is an old fashioned word but it's a good one.
It doesn't mean being a dogsbody for the other person pleasing them at every step because that can become a little sickening and in time will cause that other person to tick you off their list.
Listening is part of being courteous.
Listening in such a way that you are not waiting to jump in with your own conversation.
You can watch and listen to people in discussion and you will quickly notice that most people are not really listening they are just waiting for a gap in the conversation to start there own story.
Everyone just loves to be truly listened to and they can tell by the questions you ask and they way you stand and look - yes body language tells if the person is listening.
So if you have listened you have made a great start.
Sharing is the other side of listening for you must share about yourself so they can know something about you.
Now sharing should be a limited activity and you should have the antenna up to tell you if you are becoming a bore.
Be observant of your dates body language and if you see her or his eyes moving away from you and returning and their body stance moving and returning then as they say in the oil industry "if you ain't struck oil then stop boring" I have observed men and women utterly embarrass the date by going into verbal overdrive.
So share but share sparingly and stop when the signs tell you they are not really listening.
Be careful about body contact.
This may sound very old-fashioned advice but if you have serious intent to get a relationship going with the date then don't be all over them physically.
Physical contact should be by invitation and consent.
Its not old world for a man to ask " do you mind if I hold your hand" or " I would like to kiss you is that ok" For the woman she should not be over coy and play games at this point because for many young men who in male company act grossly and full of confidence they are not that confident and need to know that you like them and want them.
Finally if you are now on a dating schedule with that special girl or man it's a sign of respect by being punctual.
Again most see this as old world and not important however you give a strong message to any person you date if you are always late and even forget a date.
Some use this as a manipulative play to get the other one anxious and unsure and it can work for a while with some however if your relationship is built on that sort of basis then its never going to be solid and will have troubles down the line.
You want to attract a girl to you as a person so that a real relationship will begin.
What happens now at this point is so important for it sets the groundwork for any further contact or action.
The very first rule to attract a girl is "Do not Try" The strange paradox is that when we really want something so strongly we behave over the top and become a pressure cooker.
This pressure then gets turned on to the one you desire and then she will start to run for cover.
So stop trying so hard.
Courtesy is an old fashioned word but it's a good one.
It doesn't mean being a dogsbody for the other person pleasing them at every step because that can become a little sickening and in time will cause that other person to tick you off their list.
Listening is part of being courteous.
Listening in such a way that you are not waiting to jump in with your own conversation.
You can watch and listen to people in discussion and you will quickly notice that most people are not really listening they are just waiting for a gap in the conversation to start there own story.
Everyone just loves to be truly listened to and they can tell by the questions you ask and they way you stand and look - yes body language tells if the person is listening.
So if you have listened you have made a great start.
Sharing is the other side of listening for you must share about yourself so they can know something about you.
Now sharing should be a limited activity and you should have the antenna up to tell you if you are becoming a bore.
Be observant of your dates body language and if you see her or his eyes moving away from you and returning and their body stance moving and returning then as they say in the oil industry "if you ain't struck oil then stop boring" I have observed men and women utterly embarrass the date by going into verbal overdrive.
So share but share sparingly and stop when the signs tell you they are not really listening.
Be careful about body contact.
This may sound very old-fashioned advice but if you have serious intent to get a relationship going with the date then don't be all over them physically.
Physical contact should be by invitation and consent.
Its not old world for a man to ask " do you mind if I hold your hand" or " I would like to kiss you is that ok" For the woman she should not be over coy and play games at this point because for many young men who in male company act grossly and full of confidence they are not that confident and need to know that you like them and want them.
Finally if you are now on a dating schedule with that special girl or man it's a sign of respect by being punctual.
Again most see this as old world and not important however you give a strong message to any person you date if you are always late and even forget a date.
Some use this as a manipulative play to get the other one anxious and unsure and it can work for a while with some however if your relationship is built on that sort of basis then its never going to be solid and will have troubles down the line.
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