3 Ways To To Stand Up For Yourself That Didn"t Work in Junior High But Do In Adulthood
Need To Say Something In An Awkward Situation? Do It With Childlike Honesty
Slap on your very biggest, fakest smile that you can possibly muster. Then in your silliest little-kid voice say EXACTLY what you need to say directly to the person. Don't stop the fake smile during.
Does this work? It usually does for a couple of reasons, and not only are you getting your emotions out which is good for your personal well-being, but it also allows the other person to respond to what you say. Instead of having this happen when you bottle up your emotions. It also is great because it diffuses many situations because of the addition of humor. Just remember that for this to work, you have to go all out with the smile and vocal tone. Try it a few times before you actually do it and see what you look like in the mirror, chances are you won't be able to not laugh.
Being Pressured To Do Something Dangerous? Play Dumb & Ask the Person Pressuring You To Do It First
"On movie sets, I find myself using this a lot with first-time directors that are trying to get me to do a dangerous stunt that could hurt myself or the others in the scene," says actor Paul Cram. A scrappy-built actor that works in low-budget movies around the USA. "Asking the director to actually do the stunt to show me how he is envisioning it happening, shifts the peer pressure from me back onto them. What usually happens is they wind up snapping out of whatever theory they thought would work with the stunt, and seeing that it's dangerous, they rethink it and figure out another way to shoot the scene without putting anyone in dance. It makes them actually put themselves in my shoes. It works wonderfully."
Need To Stop Getting Overly Flustered In The Midst of a Confrontational Situation? Picture a Bright Red Stop Sign
Seriously. Visualize a bright red stop sign three times. There's science happening when you do this. Let me explain. When you visualize the stop sign, it forces your brain to disengage from the tiny Hypothalamus region where "Fight or Flight" originates; and allows you to tap into the much larger logic & critical thinking frontal lobe. Hence, if you do decide to speak up, you can be way more confident in what you are deciding to do and say. You'll know that you aren't just spouting off from your primitive "Fight or Flight" portion of the brain.
Slap on your very biggest, fakest smile that you can possibly muster. Then in your silliest little-kid voice say EXACTLY what you need to say directly to the person. Don't stop the fake smile during.
Does this work? It usually does for a couple of reasons, and not only are you getting your emotions out which is good for your personal well-being, but it also allows the other person to respond to what you say. Instead of having this happen when you bottle up your emotions. It also is great because it diffuses many situations because of the addition of humor. Just remember that for this to work, you have to go all out with the smile and vocal tone. Try it a few times before you actually do it and see what you look like in the mirror, chances are you won't be able to not laugh.
Being Pressured To Do Something Dangerous? Play Dumb & Ask the Person Pressuring You To Do It First
"On movie sets, I find myself using this a lot with first-time directors that are trying to get me to do a dangerous stunt that could hurt myself or the others in the scene," says actor Paul Cram. A scrappy-built actor that works in low-budget movies around the USA. "Asking the director to actually do the stunt to show me how he is envisioning it happening, shifts the peer pressure from me back onto them. What usually happens is they wind up snapping out of whatever theory they thought would work with the stunt, and seeing that it's dangerous, they rethink it and figure out another way to shoot the scene without putting anyone in dance. It makes them actually put themselves in my shoes. It works wonderfully."
Need To Stop Getting Overly Flustered In The Midst of a Confrontational Situation? Picture a Bright Red Stop Sign
Seriously. Visualize a bright red stop sign three times. There's science happening when you do this. Let me explain. When you visualize the stop sign, it forces your brain to disengage from the tiny Hypothalamus region where "Fight or Flight" originates; and allows you to tap into the much larger logic & critical thinking frontal lobe. Hence, if you do decide to speak up, you can be way more confident in what you are deciding to do and say. You'll know that you aren't just spouting off from your primitive "Fight or Flight" portion of the brain.
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